The Power of YES by Darlena Drake Fields
"The Power of Yes" is one of the catch phrases rocketing around cyber-space these days. Writers, life coaches, counselors, motivational speakers, preachers, teachers, fitness coaches--anyone in the influencing culture, are all using this phrase to motivate people to do things they would ordinarily and normally say "NO" to. Much of it is really good stuff, with lots of truth in it, except maybe saying yes to "jumping consciousness". That one really threw me. But who could argue with the benefits behind saying "YES" to:
God & your calling
Weight-loss & healthy living
Love & relationship
The life you've always dreamed...
Or here's a goody, "Say 'Yes' to 'No'". LOL! I truly love all the positivity and healthy perspectives that have flooded our modern-day culture. You can't get away from them. Cute little, inspirational sayings are posted everywhere you cruise on the internet, and every daily-living store you go in has a plethora of signs/pictures with sayings on them hung right in your face for you to purchase, so you too can buy them and hang them right in your face in the comfort of your own home. I'm personally a sucker for them. I literally have them propped, posted and pasted all over my house.
"...no matter how many inspirational sayings or scriptures I chanted like a mantra, I wasn't...getting out of the deep, dark pit I'd...been stuck in for the past three years."
But something I realized one day (specifically September 10, 2015), was that no matter how many inspirational sayings or scriptures I surrounded myself with or chanted like a mantra, I wasn't making any progress with getting out of the deep, dark pit I'd fallen into and been stuck in for the past three years. It felt like my clawing at the walls to climb out, only sunk me deeper in despair and hopelessness. I was only becoming more and more disconnected from God and finding less and less meaning in life. I'd lost my sense of purpose, felt like my marriage had become a monotonous tennis match of chaotic bickering and awkward silence. Brace yourself for this next one. I just felt so done with being a wife and a mom.
My precious husband told me to put the kids back in school and go find what made me happy. So, I went out and got myself a management position at one of the fastest growing women's accessory stores in the country, just like I dreamed of when I was a little girl. Well, it didn't take but a few months managing that glamour store for me to be in complete misery, because I had no life outside that self-imposed prison. OMG! I can't even drive by the shopping center now without my body going into brace-yourself mode.
"I was...sick of being afraid of what people would think of me
if they ever found out who I really was..."
Honestly, deep down, I just didn't want to take care of anyone or anything anymore. And I was sick of caring what people thought--more like sick of being afraid of what people would think of me if they ever found out who I really was--a scared-spitless, small-town girl that armored-up everyday to perfect, please and perform her ass off to be the most fashionable pastor's wife, homeschool mom, girlfriend, school volunteer, Bible study attender, prayer warrior and tough, Texas chick anyone ever laid eyes on, while cruising in my SUV and sporting my everyone-wants-a-pair cowgirl boots. Yeah, baby! Can you feel me now?!? Come on and snap in Z-formation! Okay. Sorry. Now come back out of fantasy land with me, so I can tell you the real deal. Secretly, all I truly wanted to do was run away and be free.
"I let out one of those gut-wrenching prayers toward Heaven...I seriously and fearlessly told the Lord I would be willing to do whatever I needed to do..."
So, back to that one day I mentioned up there...in a moment of sheer terror, of where I might end up if I kept traveling down this dark path, I let out one of those gut-wrenching prayers toward Heaven--maybe the kind of prayers you read about in the Bible where the person rips their clothes in desperation. I seriously and fearlessly told the Lord I would be willing to do whatever I needed to do to get back to being the "spiritual badass" (this was how one of my friend's once introduced me to her husband, which I mentioned in my Remember Who You Are blog) that I had once been. I was finally willing to lay my soul bare and let the Holy Spirit wade around in that swampland to find whatever had me stuck and drain it out of me!
"I heard exactly what I needed to do. The instructions from the Lord also came with this promise, 'I will refresh me, restore me, renew me and reposition me in ministry.'"
Well, just two days later, I heard God speak to my spirit, for the first time in months! I heard exactly what I needed to do. The instructions from the Lord also came with this promise "I will refresh you, restore you, renew you and reposition you in ministry." But, I didn't like His antidote one bit! In my mind I heard this sarcastic little voice saying, "Be careful what you pray for honey, cause you just might get it!" Surely this was not the answer to my plight! I wanted to punch somebody!!! I vehemently said, "No thank you, sir", along with five legit reasons why not only was I not going to do it, but couldn't.
"...with much fear and trembling, I said, "YES" to what God had for me...
God and my husband were in cahoots to help me get free!!!"
By the end of the day something happened that prompted me to tell my husband about my encounter with the Lord. When I asked Phillip what he thought, he didn't even give me an answer. He just whipped out his cell phone and started getting busy making it happen. I'm talking it started the very next day! So, with much fear and trembling, I said, "YES" to what God had for me. Looking back now, I can see it was a total set up. I didn't even have time to squirm out of it! God and my husband were in cahoots to help me get free!!!
“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen. -Brene' Brown”
I spent an entire year, and then some, saying "YES" to some really brave things. Things that literally scared the hell right out of me, quite frankly. Brene' Brown's book, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, greatly inspired me along the way. Brene', now one of my greatest inspirations for courageous living, says, “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” This means being willing to be vulnerable, which I now understand is the key to becoming free to be who you were born to be and living a greathearted life.
"I wanted to be free, so my children could see that it was possible and
reap the benefits of my freedom."
My motive for saying "YES" to hard things so I could be a spiritual badass again quickly faded, and turned to being a breakthrough for my family. I wanted to be free, so my children could see that it was possible and reap the benefits of my freedom. The Lord continued with His instructions of vulnerability for me, and I bravely kept obeying. Two years later, my household doesn't even look the same! I think I might have mentioned in a previous blog that my children went crazy-town in 2014, which had a great deal to do with the state of my condition. But now by God's grace and and the power of vulnerability, they are all in different places--great places with the Lord, doing great God-things with their lives!
I've seen the hand of redemption sweep through my home and my life in an amazing way. That's the power of "YES" at work in the life of a believer!
You ignite a flame with your life, when you allow yourself to become vulnerable enough and brave enough to become who you were born to be...and the fire just keeps spreading!
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