Why we told our "real" story?

We told about the messy middle of our lives- how through grit, guts and grace, we went from those lonely, small-town, blue-collar kids to where we are today. But don't worry we're not just going to puke on you emotionally, bolt, then leave you shocked in your airplane seat.  We are braving our story with vulnerability because we've learned that true freedom comes from setting others free.  We did it to show others how true redemption works.  Our hope is that by sharing our UNperfect story you will find the hope and courage to embrace the unperfectness of your own story.  You are not alone!!!

how to get over wanting the perfect marriage?

Marriage is messy.  Ours has been very messy, but we found the deepest love developed in our biggest struggles.  Through our discoveries, we grew up and learned to practice connection.  Money, status, and things did not bring us happiness.  Buying a nice house, getting good jobs, having money, and finding the best schools for our kids did not improve our marriage.  We turned the pursuit of stuff into a quest for security and certainty.  Our fantasies of a better life and more exciting partners became our idols.  The trouble is that our pursuit of the American Dream-Fantasy life put us on the performance treadmill.

After years of pleasing, perfecting, performing and many times, hustling to get it right, we came to a conclusion.

       WE ARE ENOUGH BECAUSE JESUS IS ENOUGH AND WE CAN BE ENOUGH FOR EACH OTHER!

The UNperfect Marriage is a book to bring liberation for couples trapped in the fantasy of perfection.  Jesus showed us how to recieve His perfect love in our imperfectness.  We hope it will inspire you to do the same thing.